Tell them what will change, concretely
Abstract reassurance lands less well than specifics: where the baby will sleep, who will collect them from school, what stays exactly the same. Children settle around detail.
Protect their anchors
- Keep bedtime routines as unchanged as you can, even if a different adult runs them.
- Keep one activity that belongs to them alone.
- Warn them ahead of changes rather than announcing them in the moment.
Give them a real role
A small, genuine job — fetching a fresh diaper, choosing the baby's outfit, singing a song — gives an older child a place in the new arrangement instead of a spectator's seat.
Expect some going backwards
Sleep, toileting, and clinginess often regress for a while. It is usually a request for reassurance rather than a problem to correct. Talk with your healthcare provider if a change concerns you.
Use help where it counts
Support during the day often helps siblings most: it frees an adult to be present for the older child while the baby is cared for nearby.
Where to learn more
- HealthyChildren.org: Preparing Your Family for a New Baby
AAP suggestions for helping siblings adjust to a new baby.
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Written by the Village Family Care Network team.